- What is Three Minute Therapy: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life?
Three Minute Therapy is a book for people who get anxious, or depressed, or angry, or who feel guilty. People who procrastinate, or have addictions. People who overeat, or smoke.
In other words, it's for most fallible, imperfect humans!
The way we think powerfully influences the way we feel. Three Minute Therapy shows you, convincingly, that all these problems come from thinking in "musts," e.g. "I MUST not fail." (If you do fail, then this "musty" thinking will get you depressed.) Or "My boss MUST treat me fairly." (If he/she treats you unfairly, then your "musty" thinking makes you angry.) Or "Life MUST be hassle-free." (When life gives you hassles, then this demand drives you to procrastination and addictions.)
Three Minute Therapy gives you a simple way to eliminate your "musts" and calm your upset emotions.
- What do you mean by "musty" thinking?
Thinking characterized by rigidity and perfectionism, thinking, for example, "I MUST succeed in everything I do or else I'm worthless," rather than thinking, "I strongly PREFER to succeed is whatever I do or else it's too bad."
- Aren't you just saying "Don't make things so important"?
No. It's fine to make goals -- like doing well professionally or having a fulfilling relationship -- very important. Your emotional problems arise when you go off the deep end and invent consequences of your possible failure that can't happen, such as becoming worthless, or the world ending.
- How does thinking in "musts" cause all the problems you mentioned?
When people place the pressure of a "must" on themselves, they muddy their brain and then, understandably, get disturbed and act in stupid ways. The precise ways in which musty thinking causes emotional problems are explained in the book.
- How can we eliminate our "musts" and calm our upset emotions?
By using the "Three Minute Exercise" explained in the book. The "Three Minute Exercise" helps you uncover the specific "must" that's upsetting you at the moment. It then shows you how to think clearly, without the "must."
- How can Three Minute Therapy help overeaters?
With overeating, "musty" thinking is the culprit. Overeaters often tell themselves "Life MUST be comfortable, I can't stand the discomfort." Then they magnify their discomfort, and eat for momentary comfort. Yet this makes their lives much more uncomfortable in the long run. The "must" twisted their otherwise logical thinking. If they were to think smart, without the "must," they'd then be in control and choose to eat moderately.
- How can Three Minute Therapy help alcoholics?
It shows alcoholics how to uncover the "must" that's in their heads right before drinking. The book teaches them that "I MUST drink because I have the urge" is a lie, since they are in control of the muscles in their arms and they can choose not to drink.
- Aren't there many books available like this one?
No, there are not many books that zero in on the "Three Minute Exercise" and show how you can easily apply it to depression, anxiety, addictions, and a host of other problems.
- Can people be helped just by reading a book?
Reading Three Minute Therapy is the first step, but just reading the book will probably NOT be a big help. Beneficial results come from practicing the "Three Minute Exercises."
- This sounds too simplistic to help people with serious problems.
The basic idea is a simple one, but scientific studies indicate that it's quite beneficial, even with severe problems.
- What about getting to the childhood origins of your problem?
Sigmund Freud and his followers were misguided on this one. Discussing your childhood may be fascinating and gut-wrenching, but unfortunately, it's very superficial. Instead, a truly deep approach would target the core "musts" that lie at the heart of your problem. It would then enable you to free yourself of your self-destructive thinking and feel good again.